Getting Used to Living Alone

Recently separated people often say that they find getting used to living alone one of the hardest things to get used to, especially with all the little tasks that used to be shared now falling to one person.
Although getting used to living alone certainly takes some time, and isn’t something that can be rushed, there are some key areas that you can at least be better prepared to face.
Security
If you’ve been used to living as a pair for a number of years, it can be rather disconcerting to be by yourself in the house, particularly at night. The first thing to do is make sure you have a reliable security system, and if you already have one but your partner used to deal with it, make sure you learn how to use it. Many security system installation companies (check for the phone number on your keypad alarm box) send out engineers to show you how to use the system free of charge, which is a great way to get peace of mind.Give a spare house key to a trusted neighbour so that you have back up if needed and install a fisheye security window in your front and back doors. It’s also worth adding an extra lock to your doors too, and any windows that are even a little bit accessible.
Answering the Door
It can feel different to answer the door to an unexpected caller when you know that you are alone in the house. It is worth getting into the habit of having a talk-based radio station playing in another room when you live alone, as well as having a light or two on in rooms that you are not using, or in your garden.If you are a lady living alone, a good ruse is to have a man’s coat, hat or shoes in your entrance hall if you are at all concerned. Also, do not have your ‘single woman’ status made obvious by having your name on your door or letter box.
Changing Routines
Part of living alone when you’re recently separated that can be tricky to handle is the stopping of routines. It may be that you and your ex had a certain breakfast at the weekend, or that you were brought a cup of tea in the evening when you were watching your favourite television show. It can be hard to realise that this will not happen again. Be kind to yourself by pre-emptively preparing for these events – buy yourself a special breakfast for the weekend and make a pot of tea before your show comes on.The Little Things
It’s easy to overlook the sad impact of not having someone to call out to you when you open the front door after work or to answer the phone when you’re in the bath. Living alone means that you have to do everything yourself, and that is not always welcome. As long as you embrace the positives of living alone when you’re recently separated, such as always being able to have the remote, making whatever you fancy for supper and having the duvet to yourself, you can try to stay strong when the downsides seem more prevalent.- Attending Events Alone
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